You were shocked when your spouse approached you and told you that they wanted to get a divorce. They were unhappy with a few things that had happened recently and didn’t think they could get past the “red flags” they claimed they saw.
You were so surprised that you asked them not to pursue a divorce and to work on your issues. You agreed to counseling and to working on the marriage to make it work.
Over time, your spouse seems to have come back around to enjoying being married, but it has put you in a frustrating position. Now, you’re always wondering if they’ll change their mind again. Should you seek a divorce anyway?
Saving a marriage could be possible, but is it worth it?
Since you’ve been through counseling with your spouse and have worked on the issues they were concerned about, you may, on one hand, be in a good position to continue on as a married couple. However, your spouse did take a calculated risk by asking for a divorce. They knew that there was a risk that asking for a divorce would break your trust and potentially lead to you following through.
While you shouldn’t jump into anything, it is worth talking to your spouse about how their request made you feel and how you don’t feel that your own concerns have been resolved. If you truly feel that you are walking on eggshells or that you can’t trust your spouse not to leave on a whim in the future, then it may be better for you to seek a divorce and move forward without remaining married.
You have a right to decide to leave your marriage
If you feel lonely or like an outsider in your own marriage, whether that’s because your trust has been broken or because it seems like you and your spouse aren’t on the same page, it may be time to reconsider divorcing on your terms. If you are considering this, you may want to look into your legal options and ways to make the divorce go smoothly in the future.