Writing A Brighter Future

How do you tell the kids you’re getting a divorce?

On Behalf of | Feb 9, 2022 | Divorce

Emotionally, physically and financially, divorce can be rough. One of the roughest steps divorcing parents have to endure is the moment they tell their children.

Where do you even start? If you approach the situation carefully, you’ll create a strong foundation for a better future.

Timing is everything

First, you and your spouse should both be present for the initial discussion with the kids. That will reinforce the idea that you are still both going to be involved in their lives and available when they need you.

Here’s how to time the discussion:

  • Have this all-important talk before you make any changes to the family’s living arrangements. If one parent is about to move out or everybody will be relocating to different homes, you want to talk to the kids before it happens.
  • Be sensitive about special events. That means don’t have this talk when your teenager is studying for their finals or your youngest is prepping for their piano recital.
  • Schedule plenty of time to talk. You absolutely cannot sandwich this discussion between work and bed. Your kids need to have time to think about what’s happening, process their emotions and ask questions.
  • Be ready to answer those questions. Your kids are going to have a lot of questions about the practical concerns, like where they’re going to live and will they have to change schools. The clearer you are about those things, the more reassured the kids may feel.

Once you’ve taken this step, it’s time to move on to the next. That will include getting some experienced guidance as you move through the child custody proceedings and develop your parenting plan.