There was a time in the United States when a divorcing couple essentially could assume that the mother would get to have the children after the divorce. The father could assume that he would have to pay child support and possibly alimony.
The reason for this is that far more families operated on one income. The husband worked and the wife stayed home with the kids and took care of the house. In a divorce, it just made sense for the wife to continue to do that while the husband supported her and the children financially.
But things have changed. These days, sole custody is not the norm, many families have two working parents and it is far more common for both of these parents to share responsibilities, obligations and parenting time after a divorce.
This change focuses on the children
Not only has this change happened because of changes to the family structure and the workforce in America, but studies have also found that it’s best for the children to still be involved with both parents. As a result, courts often need a very significant reason to deny shared custody. An example could be abuse or criminal charges. Without a strong reason, they’re going to default to shared custody.
This means that you are likely going to have to cooperate with your ex after your divorce, and it’s very important to know how to get a proper custody plan in place. You also need to know how to resolve disputes that may arise and exactly what paternal rights you have.