When you and your spouse got married and decided to have children, you decided to leave your job. Maybe it was a financial decision, based on the cost of childcare. Maybe you just wanted a chance to bond with your children and spend that time with them.
No matter what, you’ve been out of work now for more than a decade. Your spouse is filing for divorce. You’re going to lose your only source of income, and your spouse is simply telling you that you’re going to have to go back to work. But is this reasonable?
Do you still have the skills that you need?
The issue you’re facing is one of the main reasons that spousal support is ordered by courts when couples split up. They understand that you may not be able to just jump back into the job you used to do, so you need financial support after the divorce. The court does not want you to become destitute or be unable to care for yourself.
Your workplace may have changed significantly since you left ten years ago. You’ll need to develop new skills or learn new ways that you can work in a profession that you left behind. This is especially true if your work involves the use of technology.
As such, spousal support may not be ordered on an unlimited basis. It may just give you a set amount of time, which is how long the court believes it will take for you to be able to earn your own living again. It’s important to understand how this process works, what rights you have as you address your divorce, and the financial questions it brings up.