Divorces are hard on everyone, but they’re particularly terrible when you and your estranged spouse can’t get along. It can be difficult to deal with constant personal attacks or arguments when your spouse doesn’t want to negotiate or says that they’ll take everything from you.
It’s essential that you take steps to protect your health and wellbeing during such a stressful time. Coping with the stress of your divorce will help you be better prepared for negotiations and court if you need to litigate. Here are three options to help you better cope with divorce as you move forward.
- Start exercising
Exercising is a good way to burn off stress, which may be just what you need before you go to a meeting with your spouse or open a letter from the attorney. By boosting your endorphins, you’ll feel more positive and be better able to relax. Feeling calmer during a moment of stress may help you handle it better.
- Find someone to talk to
The next thing to do is to find someone to talk to. Whether you speak with a friend, a therapist or a family member, make sure you are able to be around those who offer moral support and positive guidance. You don’t want to have toxic people in your life, and you certainly don’t want to keep people around who are tattling on what you say to them to your ex. For most people, working with a professional therapist is a good choice, since that’s a private meeting.
- Compartmentalize your life
Sometimes, setting aside certain times for divorce and other times for work, activities or childcare is a must. By compartmentalizing your life, you can reduce stress by focusing on your divorce only on the days and at the times that you’ve decided on in advance.
A divorce has the potential to take over every waking moment of your life, but you don’t have to let it. Stress will exhaust you, so you need to find ways to relieve stress and manage how you’re feeling. Having someone to talk to, setting aside time for your divorce and exercising to reduce stress can all help you feel better about what you’re going through.